Use it as an opportunity to strengthen it further. These are beautiful stories that give us hope.īut when you don’t get the happy ending you deserved, don’t lose hope. I’m sure you can also observe horrific life events that have turned around into miracles. Life isn’t fair in most circumstances, but it’s downright miraculous in others. Healthy people getting sickness and disease. I’m sure you can look in reality and observe similar stories.
He also got his wealth back, several fold. The story ends with the man getting his family back. He kept faith that all of it would come back and there was something greater at play. He even lost his own family.ĭespite the catastrophes happening in every facet of his life, this man remained hopeful that things would work out in the end. He lost his money, food, and all of his assets. He lost his health and was plagued with sickness. Then, all of a sudden, everything he had was taken away. He was also a righteous and good man that didn’t deserve suffering. He had stability and lived a peaceful life. One of the most inspiring historical stories I read was about a man who had it all – an incredible family, vibrant health, and abundant wealth. There comes a time when you need to move into acceptance that you didn’t make that team. You can only stack the odds in your favor. This mindset makes anxiety worse because not only does it focus on the Self way too much, it gives you a false sense of control of a final result. Yes, self reflection can be valuable and how you could’ve shown up differently, but if you gave your best effort, dialed in your training and all of the big rocks, it’s not worth beating yourself up over the minutiae and saying, “well, did I meditate enough?” or “did I affirm enough?” or “did I journal enough?” or “did I do X,Y, and Z” enough? or “did I do yoga enough?” or “did I have positive thoughts” enough? Instead of blaming myself, and trying to nitpick where I went wrong in these unfortunate situations, I take the burden off of myself, and I find rest in the oscillations of life that are beyond my own understanding. Even when I was diligent and disciplined and worked my tail off, yet still didn’t get there, I can remain at peace that this wasn’t meant to be, and something better is on the way.Ī new moment will come when light glimmers through the dark. “Life isn’t fair” has been a mantra that I’ve returned back to every single time I don’t achieve a goal. Sometimes, it just is what it is, and this mindset will bring you far more tranquility. When something doesn’t go your way, you don’t have to blame yourself and fix things all the time. Didn’t make the team you wanted and you worked so hard and thought you were one of the best out there? The end result comes down to a plethora of factors, and some more explainable than others. This stuff feels good, but it’s not how the world works. Sadly, the end result is out of our control (despite what the “you control your reality” Tony Robbins type crowd teaches these days). Sure, we can stack the odds in our favor, check every box, and give our best effort in our training, nutrition, and sleep, but the end result doesn’t always go our way 100% of the time. Sometimes, things are out of our control. It was the first wake up call that life isn’t fair. Though hard initially, this time also brought me a lot of solace. Alas, his truthful perspective actually provided me with an odd sense of relief. My dad had a way of saying stern, gut wrenching one-liners.
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This statement, though harsh, exposes the reality of the world – that life doesn’t always go our way and we don’t have full control over an outcome, despite doing everything right. I remember my dad told me this at the dinner table that night: “don’t confuse effort with results…life isn’t fair.” Was all of my previous hard work a waste ? I mean…I made the regional team the year before, why wouldn’t I make the all-state team? I was so devastated, that I lost faith in my efforts over the past year, and wondered if any of my hard work was even worth it – being on the top club team in Maryland, working with a speed and strength coach, being consistent in my workouts, and practicing my skills in my front yard.